The first mantra is: “Darling. I’m here for you.” When you love someone, the best thing you can offer him or her is your presence. […] And you look into his eyes and you say: “Darling, you know something? I’m here for you.” You offer him or her your presence and your true presence. You are not preoccupied with the past or the future or your project. You are for your beloved one.
The second mantra is: “Darling, I know you are there and I am so happy because you are truly there.” You recognize the presence of your beloved one as something very precious. […] To be loved means to be recognized as existing.
The third mantra is what you practice when your beloved one suffers. “Darling, I know you suffer; that is why I am here for you.” Before you do something to help her, to help him, your presence already can bring some relief. […]
The fourth mantra is a little bit more difficult. That is when you suffer. And you believe that your suffering has been caused by your beloved one. So you suffer so deeply and you prefer to go to your room and close the door and suffer alone. You get hurt. And you want to punish him or her for having made you suffer. And the mantra is to overcome that. The mantra is: “Darling. I suffer. I am trying my best to practice. Please help me.